Remote work is just like working in an office—minus the soul-crushing commute. How hard could it be?
Spoiler: it's actually pretty hard.
When I went remote, I was so excited to not pack a lunch that I didn't consider the implications of a quasi-reliable Internet connection or the psychological impact of spending so much time at home.
As it turns out, going remote isn't just trading a highway commute for a hallway one. It requires new skills and a mindset shift. In this talk, you'll learn how to assess your needs as a remote worker and gain a set of tools to help you succeed for the long term.
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The transcript of the presentation follows:
[00:00] (upbeat music) [00:21] - Cool, so I expect that we'll have some more people [00:24] trickle in, which is fine, [00:26] but we'll go ahead and get started. [00:29] DHH is certainly a tough act to follow, [00:33] but I'm going to do my best here. [00:37] This is Things I Wish I Knew Before Going Remote. [00:41] I know there are a lot of other awesome sessions [00:43] going on right now so I do appreciate you [00:45] choosing to join me here today. [00:50] So just want to introduce myself. [00:52] My name is Marla Zeschin. [00:54] I use she pronouns, [00:57] and some of you may know me as Marla Brizel. [01:01] I recently changed my last name, [01:03] and in the words of one of the many government officials [01:07] that I had to interact with as part of this, [01:10] going from Brizel to Zeschin was really a lateral move, [01:15] (audience laughs) [01:16] and I don't expect you to be able to pronounce [01:19] either of those, so you're off the hook. [01:21] Just don't call me Maria, please. [01:25] I live in Colorado, so my idea of fun [01:29] may not be your idea of fun. [01:32] I like to back country ski in the wintertime [01:35] and run in the summer, [01:38] and when I'm not doing these things, [01:40] I work for a company called Test Double. [01:44] For those of you who aren't familiar, [01:46] Test Double is a remote distributed consultancy [01:50] dedicated to improving the way the world writes software. [01:54] If this is something that you think, [01:56] "Hm, my company could use some help with this," [01:58] come chat with me afterwards. [02:01] And likewise, if you're thinking, [02:02] "Hm, I would like to do this all day [02:05] "instead of work for my company," [02:06] also come talk to me afterwards because we are hiring, too. [02:11] So being fully remote and distributed, [02:14] we actually have folks in 23 U.S. states [02:17] and Canadian provinces, which is pretty cool. [02:20] We are all across North America. [02:22] And much to Justin's disappointment, [02:25] even though I'm not here today to plug Test Double, [02:28] I am here to talk to you today about remote work. [02:32] We'll talk about the good, the bad, the ugly, [02:35] and kind of all of the feelings that go along with that. [02:39] And specifically, I'm going to tell you [02:41] my story of going remote. [02:43] It is you classic hero's journey, if you will. [02:47] It has a buildup and then of course, it has a let down, [02:51] and then finally there is this redemption at the end. [02:55] And it has a heroine. [02:57] That is me in this story. [02:59] And given that it is a talk about remote work, [03:02] we will start off by exploring how that arrangement [03:06] actually came to be. [03:09] And we'll talk about how at first, things were really great. [03:13] I loved remote and I was just thrilled [03:16] that I could pull on a pair of leggings in the morning [03:19] and not have to worry about whether [03:21] I was dressed appropriately. [03:24] And everything was awesome, but as they say, [03:27] all good things must eventually [03:29] come to an end at some point. [03:31] And it's no different in this story either. [03:34] So next, we will talk about how eventually [03:38] I began to struggle with things [03:40] like not having left my house in a week, [03:43] or not seeing many other people on a daily basis, [03:47] and communication problems, and all of the challenges [03:51] that can kind of accompany that. [03:54] So for me, this eventually ended with a breaking point, [03:57] and it forced me to get it together. [03:59] And so the redemption arc in this story [04:02] comes with finding balance and figuring out [04:05] how to make the less glamorous parts of remote work [04:08] into an opportunity to discover a little bit more [04:12] about myself and my own needs. [04:15] So without further ado, let's take it from the beginning. [04:20] Our story today starts in 2016, where I took a job [04:24] at an election tech company based out of Brooklyn, New York, [04:28] and that company had a partial development team in Denver. [04:32] That team shrunk over time. [04:35] A few people moved on to the next opportunity. [04:37] A couple more people decided to leave Denver [04:39] for reasons that honestly escape me. [04:42] (audience laughing) [04:42] But at the end, it was just me and one other person [04:46] sharing a tiny WeWork office in downtown Denver, [04:49] and I was also starting to work out of my home [04:52] one to two days per week. [04:54] Eventually, it was time for me to move on [04:56] to my next opportunity, and so at the end of 2017, [05:00] I joined Test Double fully remote [05:03] and also the only person in the state of Colorado. [05:07] So we've had a few others join us [05:09] in the Denver area since then, but we all still work [05:12] out of our respective homes, and occasionally, [05:14] we'll try to get together to catch up. [05:17] And because I made that transition gradually, [05:20] from part time remote to full time, [05:22] my attitude upon going full time was basically, [05:26] whoops, how hard can this be? [05:29] I've already done this remote thing. [05:31] It's not going to be that hard, and you know, [05:33] now I don't have to worry about all the things [05:35] I hated about WeWork. [05:36] (audience laughing) [05:38] And at first, it really wasn't actually that bad. [05:41] I was in honeymoon period of sorts. [05:43] And I was loving that I was no longer bound [05:46] by a lot of the constraints that I had [05:48] working from an office. [05:50] Like for example, I no longer had to wait [05:53] for the bus in the morning. [05:55] And the bus in Denver is super unreliable, [05:57] so this was really great. [05:59] And I also got back all of the time [06:02] that I had previously devoted to my commute. [06:05] I no longer had to worry about packing a lunch [06:08] in the morning and then leaving it on the counter [06:10] as I ran for said bus, [06:11] (audience laughing) [06:12] and I got to eat instead every day [06:14] at the cheapest restaurant in the world, my own kitchen. [06:19] I could even privately and comfortably some health issues [06:23] without my coworkers being any the wiser. [06:26] And for anyone else in here who also manages [06:28] a chronic health condition, you know this by itself [06:31] is really the Holy Grail, to not have to talk about it [06:35] with anybody else and just deal with it yourself. [06:39] I had this amazing flexibility to get life things done [06:43] with little to no impact on my day. [06:46] Before, if I had a contractor coming over to the house, [06:49] I'd have to take off half a day of work to deal with them, [06:53] and now I could let them in and be back at my desk [06:56] in the time that it would take me [06:57] just for a normal bathroom break. [07:00] I won't lie, there is a lot of upside to working remotely, [07:04] and that's part of why we're all here, right? [07:08] I was finding that in many ways, a flexible work schedule [07:11] really is all that it's cracked up to be. [07:14] But of course, eventually, I started to get used [07:17] to the shininess, it's not quite as shiny as it once was, [07:22] and the lure of leggings wears off. [07:25] And so I found myself at this point a little bit [07:28] caught off guard as reality actually started to take hold. [07:33] So I'm curious here, show of hands, [07:36] how many of you have some kind of morning routine? [07:41] Right, okay. [07:42] Just about everybody. [07:43] Well, chances are, it probably goes something like this: [07:47] you wake up, maybe you get a little exercise, [07:50] or you hop straight in the shower, [07:52] then you make some breakfast, [07:53] or you get kids ready for their day, [07:56] and then you're out the door as well shortly thereafter. [08:00] Mine's pretty similar, except instead of putting shoes on [08:04] at the end of the day, I throw on a pair of slippers [08:07] and I head back upstairs to my office. [08:10] And this is where I tend to stay once I get settled in. [08:14] I'm guessing I might be a lot like a lot of you here, [08:17] where once I get into the groove, [08:19] I start coding and solving a problem, [08:21] time goes by and I've stayed there for most of the day. [08:26] And because now I was now just going down the hall [08:29] instead of out the door for a commute, [08:32] I found that it was really easy for this [08:34] to turn into being home for days on end. [08:37] And because I no longer had to go outside to get [08:40] from the place that I slept to the place that I worked, [08:45] some interesting things were starting to happen. [08:49] First, I found that work and home were beginning [08:52] to blend together to the point where the distinction [08:55] was no longer as clear as it should have been. [09:00] And similarly, because there was no physical separation [09:04] between work and the rest of my life, I was also finding [09:08] that there wasn't really as much conceptual separation [09:10] as there should be either. [09:13] The temptation to grab my phone and check my email [09:16] before I'd even sat up in bed or said good morning [09:19] to my husband or get sucked into something [09:22] shortly after waking was really high [09:24] and something that I was not really able to resist. [09:29] Likewise, because I didn't have an office [09:32] to leave behind at the end of the day, [09:34] I also was having trouble knowing when to cut it off. [09:38] If you're a high achiever like me, [09:40] or dare I say maybe an overachiever, [09:43] you might even feel a little bit of guilt [09:46] with leaving some work unfinished for the next day. [09:50] After all, how hard is it really to refactor one more method [09:54] or write one more test? [09:58] And because there was no difference [10:00] between my work environments and my not work [10:03] or my life environments, [10:05] time was really starting to really slip by. [10:08] And then one day I realized that I had no idea [10:11] where my house keys were. [10:13] And I was able to figure out that I had last seen them [10:17] somewhere between Monday and Thursday. [10:19] (audience laughing) [10:21] But I wasn't really sure, more specifically than that [10:24] because, much as I was loathe to admit it, [10:28] I also wasn't sure when I last left the house [10:31] in a way that required me to actually lock the door. [10:34] This development here was extra surprising to me [10:38] because one touted benefit of remote work [10:41] is that you should be able to work from anywhere. [10:44] If you need a change of scenery, just pick up your stuff [10:47] and hit the local coffee shop. [10:48] No big deal. [10:50] But sometimes my local coffee shop had sketchy wifi, [10:55] and it also had that regular who liked to shout loudly [10:58] about politics in the corner, [11:00] and I needed to be on an important client call [11:03] where I couldn't have that going on in the background. [11:06] I was finding that even though I expected this, [11:09] you know, from time to time, these kinds of situations [11:12] were actually cropping up a lot more frequently [11:15] than I expected. [11:17] And while work from anywhere is certainly a nice trope, [11:21] in reality, I was finding that there were far fewer places [11:24] that I could work that were conducive to the type of things [11:28] that I needed to get done during the day. [11:32] And because I felt limited in the places [11:35] where I could effectively work, [11:37] I also found that my interactions with other people [11:40] were also becoming more limited. [11:43] When I worked in an office or a coworking space, [11:46] this wasn't an issue. [11:47] I bumped into people all the time. [11:49] I saw coworkers and friends in the hallway, [11:53] and since my office was typically downtown [11:56] and near my friends' offices, [11:58] it was really easy to get together with people for lunch [12:01] or make last minute plans to catch up after work. [12:06] But because my office was now my home, [12:09] I was finding that the friend and the coworker [12:12] that I saw far and away the most often was Pearl the dog. [12:16] (audience sighing) [12:18] She's great. [12:19] (audience laughing) [12:19] There was no getting around it. [12:21] The social interaction that comes from working from home [12:25] was starting to get really intense for me, [12:28] or the social isolation I should say. [12:31] And that was getting extra intense, [12:33] especially on the days where I wasn't pairing much [12:36] or I didn't have a lot of other opportunity [12:38] for collaboration with other people. [12:42] And even though I was finding myself a little starved [12:44] for social interaction, I was also feeling a lot of guilt [12:49] over making some time for it. [12:52] I found myself wondering if it was okay to get up [12:55] from my desk and take time away from work for a few [12:59] because this meant leaving my house. [13:03] If you're like me, sometimes you can feel like [13:06] you need to ask permission to do these kinds of things [13:10] and that is also nerve wracking [13:12] because if you have to ask for something, [13:14] it feels like there is a chance [13:16] that maybe you're not supposed to have it. [13:19] Theoretically, remote work is supposed to liberate people [13:22] from needing to ask permission to go about the minutiae [13:26] of their day in a way that they choose. [13:29] Because it does away with this idea of butts in seats [13:33] as a measure of output or productivity. [13:36] And now, perhaps that's true, but I think in reality, [13:39] it's a little bit more nuanced than that. [13:43] We've all had days where we're not 100% on our game. [13:46] Maybe you're fighting all day with Docker [13:49] and you don't get to writing any meaningful code [13:51] until the last 90 minutes of your day, [13:54] or maybe you just had a terrible night's sleep [13:56] and you're not able to get into it for whatever reason. [14:01] Well, when I worked in an office and I had days like these, [14:04] like we all do, I still felt okay about the day [14:08] because after all, I was still at work all day [14:11] and people could see that my butt [14:12] was in a chair doing something. [14:15] But at home, I felt this immense guilt and anxiety [14:19] on days like this, when I didn't necessarily [14:21] have the world to show for my efforts. [14:24] I didn't know how to make it known either [14:27] that I was still doing things of value [14:29] and still being productive. [14:31] And so, that leads me to the last thing [14:34] that I struggled with when I went remote [14:37] and that's communication. [14:39] Good communication is obviously important in every job. [14:43] I think that's something that we actually talk about a lot [14:46] at Developers is how communication can aid us in our work. [14:50] But it becomes extra critical [14:52] when nobody can see you or your person. [14:56] In fact, it's sometimes even easy to wonder, [14:59] if you can't see me, do I even work here at all? [15:03] Or do I even exist in the world? [15:07] And furthermore, because face to face interaction [15:10] is often lacking in remote jobs, [15:12] this means that good written communication [15:14] suddenly becomes a lot more critical. [15:18] The constant high volume, high quality communication [15:21] that's required by a remote job, [15:24] is mentally taxing, even for those of us [15:27] who don't have to practice at it a lot. [15:29] And tired people eventually start to make mistakes. [15:34] If you've ever had anything that you've written into Slack [15:37] or an email be misinterpreted because maybe your wording [15:40] was off and you didn't have the accompanying nonverbal [15:44] communication to either clear the air or correct things, [15:48] then you know how high the stakes can be [15:50] in this sort of situation. [15:53] So needless to say, I was starting [15:55] to feel the pressure a bit, [15:57] and between the lack of work life balance, [16:00] the social isolation and the communication challenges, [16:04] that honeymoon period that we talked about earlier, [16:06] that had worn off. [16:09] I hit a spot where I was really unhappy with my day to day, [16:14] to the point where others were starting [16:15] to actually comment on my demeanor, [16:18] and I was being asked far more often than felt appropriate [16:22] if everything was actually okay. [16:25] And you see, I knew in my gut that remote work [16:29] had a lot to do with my growing unhappiness, [16:32] but I wasn't really sure how I was supposed [16:35] to feel about this. [16:37] After all, remote work had been sold as this magic elixir, [16:41] and that's something that I had bought into [16:43] that I was really nervous to admit [16:46] that instead it was starting to turn into [16:48] a poison pill. [16:51] And that left me wondering what was wrong with me [16:55] given that my feelings didn't seem to match up [16:57] at all with what I thought remote work [17:00] was supposed to be like. [17:02] I couldn't figure out at all how I was supposed [17:05] to reconcile these feelings of loneliness [17:08] and guilt and anxiety, [17:11] because whenever I would tell people that I worked remotely, [17:15] it seemed like the responses were always ones [17:18] of jealousy or longing. [17:20] People would say things like, [17:22] "Oh, I would love to be able to have that some day. [17:25] "You must be so happy." [17:27] Or, "I'm really jealous, you're living my dream." [17:31] And so I started to wonder [17:33] if I was living somebody else's dream, [17:36] and yet I was feeling this other way instead. [17:40] Well, maybe I just wasn't cut out for remote work. [17:46] And so this spiraled for a little bit, [17:49] and at a certain point, I finally got over myself [17:52] a little bit and remembered that I'm fortunate enough [17:56] to have some really empathetic, wonderful, [17:59] understanding coworkers, and so I decided to confide [18:03] in a few that I trusted the most. [18:05] I told them about how I was feeling, [18:07] and I was actually kind of surprised to hear their responses [18:12] that a lot of them struggled with some of the same things. [18:16] Okay, not what I expected and also kind of interesting. [18:21] So this got my wheels turning a little bit more. [18:24] How was it that for most of us we could agree [18:27] that this was actually the best job we'd ever had, [18:31] we work on, you know, difficult technical problems, [18:34] we work with wonderful people, we're growing a lot, [18:37] and yet at the same time, we're still struggling [18:41] with varying degrees of anxiety over being by ourselves. [18:47] And so at this point, [18:48] I had the light bulb moment, if you will. [18:51] What I realized at that point [18:53] is that in all of my other jobs, [18:55] there was a structure that was provided to me [18:58] by the physical environment that gave me cues [19:02] on how I was supposed to work. [19:05] And while I'm the kind of person that's always known [19:07] some superficial things about their work style, [19:10] like how I like to take notes in meetings [19:13] or how I prefer for my desk to be set up, [19:17] I had never evaluated work [19:19] on a more deeper, fundamental level. [19:23] And that's exactly what I needed to do. [19:25] What I needed to do was examine the things [19:28] that had previously been provided to me [19:30] in a physical environment [19:32] and assess what worked well from there, what I liked, [19:36] and figure out how to bring that into my life [19:39] now that I was in charge of setting up my own environment. [19:43] This was a big epiphany, [19:45] but as usually follows with epiphanies, [19:47] the next, more immediate question is [19:50] "Okay, well, what do I do now?" [19:54] So let's revisit some of the things that I struggled with [19:56] and see if we can answer that question. [20:00] So if you recall, that first challenge of working remotely [20:05] was when work and non-work life [20:06] take place in the same space, [20:09] how do you separate the two? [20:11] For me, figuring out how to create [20:13] strong, deliberate barriers between those was the key. [20:18] So I actually created a dedicated physical workspace, [20:22] enforced strong boundaries around it. [20:25] For me, I live in a house, [20:26] so this was a room in my house that is now the office, [20:30] and I work exclusively from there during the day. [20:33] And when the work day is over, I shut the door [20:35] and I don't go in. [20:37] Now obviously, not everybody lives in a house. [20:40] So maybe this is a corner of your apartment, [20:43] or it could even be a symbolic walk around the block [20:46] at the beginning and end of your day [20:48] just to symbolize the transition [20:50] between work and everything else. [20:54] The second challenge was similar, [20:56] setting appropriate temporal boundaries around work, [20:59] not starting too early and not ending too late. [21:03] In other words, I needed to figure out how I create [21:05] the nonphysical barriers that were also required [21:08] to create that work life separation. [21:12] For me, this means that every morning before work, [21:15] I get dressed and I put on a little bit of make up [21:19] because this is what I would do [21:20] if I was going out the door to a physical office. [21:24] Now obviously, I'm not saying that everyone [21:26] should start wearing lipstick, [21:27] though I think that would be fun, [21:29] (audience laughing) [21:30] But chances are, you may hold yourself to some [21:32] sort of expectation of presentation. [21:35] I don't think anyone here would show up [21:37] to their office in their underpants, [21:39] so maybe that's not the way to dress for your job at home. [21:45] I also know that if I worked in an office, [21:48] I wouldn't roll in without brushing my teeth [21:50] or having breakfast in the morning. [21:52] I am a hangry person as my pair can attest. [21:56] So I need to take care of these things at home, too, [21:59] before I can get started on my work tasks. [22:02] So for me, just having a habit or routine [22:06] that I can rely on, that's just as strong [22:09] as a physical barrier. [22:12] Now, temporal challenges can be extra difficult [22:15] when you're working across time zones. [22:18] This is the distributed part of remote and distributed. [22:22] And I realized that I needed to, [22:24] instead of stretching the day [22:26] to match coworkers' availability, [22:29] I needed to instead accept that part of the day [22:32] was going to overlap with folks on either coast [22:34] and part of it just wasn't. [22:37] So I communicated my availability pretty strongly [22:40] to clients and coworkers and also set a very aggressive [22:44] Do Not Disturb schedule on Slack [22:46] so that I wouldn't be tempted to respond to things [22:49] at inappropriate times. [22:51] You might need to be as assertive [22:53] in setting your own boundaries at home [22:56] as you might in a physical office. [22:59] If your boss asked you to be in the office every day [23:02] from 7:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m., you'd probably say "Sayonara" [23:06] and start looking for a new job. [23:09] So this isn't an appropriate expectation [23:12] to hold yourself to at home [23:14] just because your kitchen happens to be 20 feet away. [23:20] Now the third challenge was around social isolation. [23:24] Working from home meant that there were far fewer [23:26] serendipitous encounters with other people. [23:29] And while Pearl does give wonderful dog hugs, [23:33] she's also not much of a conversationalist. [23:36] And she's certainly not a replacement [23:39] for other human beings. [23:42] So I set a goal to have at least one event [23:45] scheduled per week where I would get to interact [23:48] with other human beings. [23:50] Sometimes this was a meet up, [23:52] other times it was scheduling happy hour with friends, [23:56] and yet, other times is was just getting a manicure [23:59] during lunch so that I could get out of the house [24:01] and have some interaction. [24:03] I also set this as a goal with my manager [24:06] for a little bit of extra accountability. [24:09] And to make sure I actually followed through, [24:13] I did schedule these things. [24:14] I would put my credit card down at the nail salon [24:17] or I would make the reservation in my name [24:19] so that I would actually have to show up. [24:22] I would also be intentional about scheduling. [24:25] I would try to schedule happy hour near the coffee shop [24:28] that actually did have the good wifi [24:30] so that I could make it an afternoon [24:32] out of the house, interacting with more people. [24:37] Now, to talk about the guilt side of this, [24:41] I also had to tell myself that these are things [24:44] that I would do on a lunch break or after work [24:47] if I was working in an office. [24:49] And so the only difference was that my office [24:53] was now my house, [24:54] it was still okay to go outside and do these things. [24:58] I'm guessing that nobody here feels any guilt [25:01] when a coworker grabs you and says, you know, [25:03] "Hey, let's go run to Starbucks for ten minutes." [25:06] I know I certainly didn't. [25:08] And there's also no requirement, [25:11] despite our efforts to convince ourselves to the contrary, [25:14] that we be chained to our desks all day [25:17] when we're working from home. [25:19] You're likely not going to be [25:21] at your most productive anyways [25:23] if that is the strategy you choose to approach, [25:26] so taking breaks is not only acceptable, [25:29] it's also healthy. [25:33] So let's talk about that last challenge, communication. [25:37] Without face to face interaction, [25:39] communication with other people can be really difficult. [25:43] I needed to find a way to get really good [25:46] at both casual and formal communication [25:49] with coworkers and my clients. [25:53] On the casual side, one thing that helped a lot [25:56] was setting up times for water cooler chat [25:59] with other coworkers. [26:01] This is something that Test Double actually endorses. [26:03] We have something called Coffee Time [26:05] where every week, you're randomly matched up [26:08] through the computer with another person [26:11] and you schedule about 30 minutes [26:13] to talk about whatever you'd like. [26:15] I've talked about gardening, pets, programming, [26:18] anything, it doesn't matter. [26:20] But you can also do this yourself [26:22] if your company doesn't have a formal structure. [26:25] Just reach out to someone and see if you can chitchat [26:28] at the beginning or the end of the day, maybe. [26:30] This helps a lot. [26:32] It helps not only with getting to know people, [26:35] which is certainly nice, [26:37] but you come to understand your coworkers' styles [26:40] and how they communicate, [26:41] and that in turn is super helpful when it comes time [26:44] for more formal professional communication. [26:50] There's this concept in communication [26:52] of high bandwidth and low bandwidth communication. [26:56] High bandwidth is maybe what you expect. [26:58] It's when there are a lot of senses involved [27:01] in communicating with somebody. [27:03] Low bandwidth, on the other hand, [27:05] is much more unidimensional. [27:08] I realize that colocated environments have a lot [27:11] of high bandwidth communication. [27:13] That's kind of the default. [27:14] We have a conversation with somebody, [27:17] but we also get to see at the same time [27:19] their gestures and their body language. [27:22] We hear their intonation, maybe we hear them sigh, [27:25] and we can figure out how they're feeling that day [27:28] and maybe what it is that they're actually [27:29] trying to tell us. [27:32] Remote bandwidth, on the other hand, [27:34] we don't have any of that. [27:36] We see what somebody else types into Slack, [27:39] and for the most part, you know, that's it. [27:41] Maybe we get an emoji if we're lucky. [27:44] So, you have to transmit a lot more [27:47] on low bandwidth communication [27:50] because it's a lower frequency [27:52] just to achieve the same means [27:54] as if you were on a high bandwidth frequency instead. [27:59] And so what this meant for me was that I had to change [28:02] my habits to be more explicit and overcommunicate things [28:06] that might simply be observable or taken for granted [28:10] if I was in the same physical proximity as somebody else. [28:14] This was everything from project status [28:16] to what I was up to, to even how I was feeling that day [28:21] so that people could understand that I wasn't angry at them, [28:24] you know, my stomach just hurt. [28:27] More generally, I had to be a lot more thoughtful [28:30] about my communication patterns [28:33] so that everything I said had value [28:35] and I was demonstrating the output [28:38] and what I had to show for my day [28:40] versus just relying on somebody to see me typing [28:43] at my computer and assume [28:44] that I was doing something worthwhile. [28:49] Part of this renewed focus on communication [28:51] also involved communicating issues to my employer. [28:55] So, I would be remiss if I didn't stop here at this point [28:58] and mention that a lot of this has been possible [29:01] because I have been lucky enough to collaborate [29:03] with a wonderful manager and be at a company [29:06] that does put remote first and puts due emphasis [29:10] on making sure that folks are well supported. [29:14] But what if you don't work in that kind of place? [29:17] What if your work place doesn't have [29:19] a strong remote culture? [29:21] Remote work is exploding in popularity recently. [29:24] And that's, obviously part of the hook of this talk, [29:28] and I'm guessing a good number of you are here today [29:31] because you're pioneers in your company's remote journey. [29:35] If your company is still finding the way [29:37] and finding the way across the river, [29:39] there are still some things you can do [29:41] to make sure that you don't drown in the process. [29:44] First of all, you may make sense to evaluate [29:48] what kind of culture it is that you're actually working in. [29:52] One thing that remote work does tend to expose [29:55] is whether a culture prizes busyness or outcomes. [29:59] Now, ideally, we should all prize outcomes. [30:02] We get paid to produce things, not just hack away [30:05] at our computers all day. [30:07] But that's obviously not always the case. [30:10] So if your work place's culture maybe [30:11] isn't that enlightened yet, you might have to work [30:14] a little bit harder now to bridge that gap. [30:18] Overcommunicate where you are [30:20] and what you have to show for it. [30:23] Now, I know that feels a little bit weird [30:25] or uncomfortable sometimes [30:26] to trumpet your own accomplishments, [30:29] but relative isolation does require some degree [30:32] of self advocacy. [30:34] And though it ought not to be the case, [30:37] out of sight, out of mind is a real thing, [30:40] especially if you don't yet have that strong remote culture, [30:43] or maybe you're just one of a few remote employees. [30:48] Secondly, you may want to make establishing your new [30:52] remote work habits a part of whatever broader [30:55] goal setting process you do have in place at work. [30:58] You are setting goals, right? [31:00] This allows you to hold yourself accountable [31:03] and also allows you to build up a support structure [31:06] around yourself if that happens to be [31:08] a little bit lacking at work. [31:11] It also allows you to demonstrate that remote work itself [31:15] is also work and worthy of time and attention. [31:20] Finally, don't be afraid to confide in other people. [31:24] Remote work can often feel isolating, [31:27] and these feelings can spiral out of control [31:30] pretty quickly if we do manage to convince ourselves [31:33] that we are truly alone. [31:36] This is something that I regret not doing sooner. [31:39] I do really regret holding my feelings in for so long [31:41] because I think if I said something sooner, [31:45] maybe things wouldn't have gone down [31:47] quite as far as they did. [31:49] Talking about it to a couple people really helped. [31:53] Sharing with a trusted coworker or maybe a friend [31:56] if you don't trust any of your coworkers, [31:59] can make you feel less alone, [32:02] and other people are always great sources [32:04] of advice and tips. [32:08] So to recap, we've talked about several challenges [32:11] of working from home. [32:13] The lack of work life balance in both [32:15] the physical and conceptual senses, [32:18] the social isolation, and communication challenges. [32:22] And we've also discussed some solutions to these things. [32:27] Now, I'll interject here, [32:29] these are just the main problems [32:31] that I struggled with working remotely. [32:33] Maybe you're experiencing some different things, [32:36] or you hate that solution, [32:39] or you have another one that's awesome to you. [32:42] That's great. [32:43] And throughout this talk, you may have noticed [32:46] that none of these things really do exist in a vacuum. [32:50] Remote work is a puzzle, and you can really rearrange [32:53] these pieces to your liking until you find the solution [32:56] that fits you. [32:59] But all of these things do have something in common. [33:02] They all entail a mindset shift pertaining [33:05] to how we consider work. [33:08] For me, this mindset shift entailed going from relying [33:12] on a structure that was implicitly provided to me [33:15] by a work environment that somebody else set up [33:18] to defining myself, the things that I needed and valued, [33:23] and finding out how to provide them to myself [33:26] now that I was in charge of my work environment. [33:29] (audience applauding) [33:30] This, to me, is what's truly liberating about remote work, [33:34] because once you start to figure this part out, [33:37] remote gives you the freedom to work on your own terms [33:41] in a way that makes the most sense for you [33:43] and whatever life circumstances you have. [33:47] But we need to stop treating remote work [33:50] like it's some kind of privilege to be earned by people [33:53] or a gift that should be reserved [33:55] for an organization's most senior developers. [33:59] Doing so only focuses on the upsides of remote work [34:03] and doesn't give any credence to the difficulties [34:06] that people face in getting acclimated. [34:09] It doesn't create a necessary culture of support [34:11] around something that is inherently difficult, [34:14] and that leads to inevitable negative feelings [34:17] when people do hit those stumbling blocks. [34:21] Instead, we need to acknowledge that remote work is a skill [34:25] in and of itself, just like anything else at work. [34:29] Nobody is born knowing how to do rails, for example, [34:34] and nobody is born knowing how to work remotely. [34:37] It's a skill that has to be learned over time [34:40] and then practiced more and more to be refined. [34:44] Because after all, there's no one right way [34:47] to work remotely. [34:48] And I think that's what draws a lot of us to remote anyways, [34:52] however, because it's something that is deeply individual, [34:56] it also requires work to figure out what your personal [35:00] remote working toolset is. [35:03] I don't think that this is something that I quite realized [35:05] when I was getting started was that figuring out [35:08] how to work remotely is also work in and of itself. [35:14] And while there's no getting around the fact [35:16] that figuring out how to work remotely can be difficult, [35:20] just because you're struggling with it doesn't mean [35:23] that there's something wrong with you, [35:25] or you're a failure, or that it's a foregone conclusion [35:29] that remote work is never going to be for you. [35:33] So if you take only one thing away from this talk [35:36] and nothing else, I hope it's that if you're [35:39] currently struggling with remote work, you're not alone. [35:43] You can do it, and there is a path forward. [35:46] Thanks. [35:47] (audience applauding) [35:50] (Lighthearted music)